We are told that sex and love are part of the same instinct; I disagree. Love is a pleasant sensation of comfort we feel when we’re close to a special person. LIVRO EM DESTAQUE. DR. FLÁVIO NO YOUTUBE. Assine o FEED do canal do Dr. Flávio no Youtube e mantenha-se atualizado conforme novos vídeos são. As for his theoretic work, in he presented studies about sex therapy; his first and critically acclaimed book, published in , was about sex, love, and.

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love | Dr. Flávio Gikovate

Sought after lecturer, he travels all over Brazil to attend conferences and meetings. Love is my subject for this piece, and in this case, people are even less disposed to see its uglier side.

They make a lot of noise, shout, are dramatic and even threaten violence. A clear separation between love and sex; 2. Change requires determination and discipline; relinquishing established habits is a difficult process that brings pain and even withdrawal symptoms.

Up to that point, they had been happiest being held by their mothers, in a peace and comfort such as they lost at birth, feeling for their mothers what we call love.

Love and freedom encounter another peculiar barrier, which is cultural conditioning. He believes that adults today have two options: I have been describing love as the feeling we have for a special person next to whom we feel peace, harmony and comfort.

Partnership is the keyword these days. This fear is sometimes associated with the pain we feel right after a breakup and, of course, losing the comfort that comes from a relationship, even a problematic one, is difficult. Its rights have been sold to Spanish speaking countries, as well to the Middle East.

Résumé | Dr. Flávio Gikovate

His book about freedom hit 40, copies. He has also written three books directed to a younger audience, with a didactic slant; these books sold aboutgikovvate.


Gikovate has gikovte, in his private practice, about patients. I suddenly realized that when people fall in love they start living in a constant state of alert—of panic, even—as if they expected a tragedy to befall them at any moment.

But that makes them noisy, not strong — these two words are not synonyms!

In this work, Gikovate explains how to take the second path — definitely gikovste difficult, but far more rewarding. We are told that sex and love are part of the same instinct; I disagree. Being strong means accepting, dealing with and assimilating all kinds of pain and setbacks that life inevitably brings. However, this pursuit of clarity has caused his content, on occasion, to be dismissed as simplistic. These days, with all the technology that allows people to be completely self-sufficient, they are losing their fear of being alone and learning to live better with themselves.

SinceI have been trying to understand the components that determine how romantic partners are chosen.

A Truly Strong Person

It creates a kind of conditioned response, so that when people achieve a sort of harmony and well-being similar to what they had experienced in utero— and nothing feels more like that than the comfort and closeness that come from a good romantic relationship—they immediately feel threatened, as if waiting for tragedy to strike.

I always use a controversial analogy to try to explain the human condition: These are beliefs, inherited points of view. Gikovate proposes that we reconsider our current worshipping of desire, since it serves to valorise casual sex, preserve selfishness and promote emotional immaturity — things that decent people have been trying to free themselves of for the longest time.

We need to take a look at how vanity interferes with the way we evaluate people and their importance. In the passing years, he published many studies about sex, love and married life; this would be the main theme of his life work. Why do we fall in love with a specific person?

But as for the really important stuff — health issues, the success or failure of their professional endeavors, studies or investments, natural tragedies such as floods, landslides and earthquakes and the death of loved ones — well, none of us has power over these issues. Domination and excessive compromise in a relationship belong in the past century. livrls


On Being Alone…

And this is not an easy thing to do, especially when truth makes us feel powerless and livtos. While some people feel particularly happy this time of the year, an even larger group of people feels sad; some even get deeply depressed. Freud proposed a theory to explain these aggressive, self-destructive tendencies: Strong are the ones who seem weak: Individualism is a word that can generate controversy and misunderstandings.

Up to that point, they had been happiest being held by their mothers, in a peace and comfort such as they lost at birth, feeling for their mothers what we call love. Aggressive reactions are not necessarily cruel: The romantic concept of one person as a solution that will bring us happiness is destined to disappear. Nobody can livrks sure that their efforts, whether in the emotional, professional or social arena, will be successful.

In this time of the year, this darkness is the most common. Theoretically, lastingly romantic marriages should be more common than those based on an exuberant sex life. Gikobate could bring about couples formed by ilvros people, more mature to experience love.

We are entering a new age of individuality that is not selfish. We get involved with someone else because we feel incomplete. Everyone should be alone every once in a while to establish their internal gikovare and discover their personal strength. Once they learn this, they become less judgmental, more respectful and understanding.